Thanks for the 2x4. Yes, I guess I knew that answer. I'd probably walk right now if it wasn't for my kids, but I can't do that to them. I've read my DR book and I've lurked on here for advice, but can you tell me more specifics about how I should go about "respecting" myself? At this point I'm pretty disgusted and as a defense mechanism I've just kept my space and kept quiet around her. She has noticed this change and asks me "Are you mad or something?" every few days.
On the s** thing...it's been bad for a 4+ years. I ask for it, she agrees most of the time, but she generally gets mad before/during/after. After seeing the texts I haven't asked in about 3 weeks. This prompted her to accuse me of "getting it from someone else". Any advice on this? She obviously doesn't want to do it, but I guess it's a barometer (keeping the 2nd option in place) of sorts for her.
