And here I am .... H's MLC ....

[PEI]

... Continued ... grrrr ... hit edit to finish it but it timed-out on me before I finished and I lost it when I sit submit! Oh well!

M&H:

So, I drew my own set of scales, with one side very far down and on that side I drew my marriage, me, the kids, the house, the dogs, and the other side, I drew nothing – just emptiness. Then I hung it near my desk as a positive affirmation that I will eventually win out the scale game.

I love this! I too am a Libra so this is a good visual for me ... I'm going to use it!

No to the M counseling, for much the same reasons that Eric says. You’re just not ready for it, it may introduce an additional dimension that throws you off course. He put it excellently.

I agree whole-heartedly, especially now! I do not want to do anything that causes H to shift focus back to the M ... he is focussing on himself and I need to continue to focus on ME. This is where we need to be.

PEI, I don’t think you ruined anything, but you have to stop pressuring him. They put it very well, you have to stop pressuring him.

Sure felt like it yesterday, but you are all right. Hiccup. Get back on the DB train. LEARN FROM IT.



Thanks again all ... it's nice to know I have a place to come where people do not think I am crazy!

I'm GALing tonight with 2 of my sisters - an art gallery opening and maybe some dancing.

Tomorrow is our rescheduled 'family day' for H's birthday and I'm going to focus on having fun as a family. I'm making homemade pizza for lunch (I make REALLY good pizza), we're going bowling in the afternoon, out to a restaurant for supper and then I think I'll rent "Where the Wild Things Are" to watch together after supper (it was H's fave book as a kid, and it's now S5's fave book too).

Sunday I am going to take the kids to my parents for the afternoon to visit and have supper ... we haven't done it in ages because Sunday is always 'family day' now.

Peace
PEI