reconciliation after divorce?

[any chance?]

Don't think the issue was fear of divorce for me. Big issue is getting blindsided last September, and never being given a chance to work on our M. Her mind was made up back then, IMO, and she is now moving forward with the plan she had in mind the whole time. My issue is a complete lack of understanding how a woman who I have been intertwined with for 19 years can just decide that I am not part of her life anymore, with no discussion or communication. Being cut out is what hurts, not the concept of D.