I know the DB obvious what not to do (say ILY, gifts ect...)
For the past few weeks my W and I have done a lot together. We enjoyed ourselves for the most part during these times. Up until a week ago there was a stretch of 4 or 5 days where W seemed to put in an effort to try and make M work. Once she found the phone she has since stopped her efforts. Sine that day we still do things but nearly every time has been initiated by me. I don't know if this is good or bad. It could be considered pursuit if I ask W to go somewhere with me or do something but at the same time W can make her own decisions and she choose to go. There were times where I felt her attitude was as if I was forcing her or dragging her out to do something she did not want to but why would she agree to go if she did not want to go.
Do I keep on doing these sort of things, such as asking W to join me in doing something or acts of service? I am trying to make the most of what could be an opportunity of filling the void but I don't want to do too much that it creates pressure and pushes her away but at the same time I don't want to sit back and not meet a need she is looking for me to fulfill.
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
