Ok, I need to really think about what I'm going to require W to do to continue on this path. I can't go any further without dealing with this.

Here's what I've been pondering. I'd appreciate any feedback:

* Her returning to OM's country, even for her work, is toxic to our R, so if she isn't willing to let that go, I'm out

* Letter of no-contact must be sent to OM, authored by us together

* Transparency plan?

* She should pay back all the money OM gave her. We never got divorced, so he essentially gave US the money, and I won't live with that

* She needs to tell me why she wants to save our M, and explain why I'm not her "plan B"

* STD test?

Comments? Suggestions?

Last edited by futureunknown; 06/04/10 05:47 AM.