No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

[MrBond]

Yeah I was debating this for awhile, but I figured, what the heck. After two years it was about time I started getting what I felt I needed. I didn't get a negative response like before so it's good.

See before, my W would apologize for anything, even if I accidentally bumped her in the hall. Now there's nothing. As odd as it sounds, I actually have to tell her when she's doing something inappropriate as she says she doesn't realize she's doing it. So after I tell her, she now thanks me for it and actually remembers to do it now.

Another example is that when she comes over to play with the kids, she leaves the house a mess. So I told her a couple of weeks ago that I would appreciate if she would pick up after herself as it is still her home too and I didn't have the luxury of living with someone to help clean like she has her sister. Lo and behold, she started cleaning.

I also mentioned to her that she stopped looking at me when we would talk. After I did that, she now has constant eye contact.

It's almost like I had to remind her of how to act with me again. I think she made me out to be such a bad guy that she threw all the good actions out the window. There was something I had read about MLC in that the LBS needs to be the one who keeps the WAS on track because the WAS isn't acting rationally. It's like establishing boundaries, etc.

And I know all this stuff I'm doing isn't being viewed negatively because I actually see more of my old, smiling wife emerging week after week. Pushing, encouraging and patience.