I think it's best to create as much calm around the birth time as possible, #1 for BD's sake. BD, you must be able to relish the moment when you meet your baby. only have people present in the room and in the hours after that make you feel LOVED, SUPPORTED and SAFE. When WH meets the baby, don't interfere - let that meeting happen 'uncontaminated'...

How you handle susequent visits is up to you and how you are feeling towards WH. If he's annoying you, limit visits, but don't blame it on him. As a new mother, you are allowed to want your space, peace and rest... everyone understands that.

I don't think DLS knows you BD. Just a turn of phrase, DLS?

Me 36; H 40
baby born in May
M:13, T:15
Bomb (OW): Dec 09
began DBing: Feb
WH overseas with OW
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