Just never seem to know the right way to handle all of this. When I am distant and/or have NC my ex is super nice to me. When I am nice to her she becomes cold and distant.
I just ended up texting her back "ok, thanks".
Have a great weekend planned with my son so I am looking forward to that.
You have a great weekend as well.
Last edited by whitneypinch; 05/29/1001:12 AM.
Me/W: 46/36 D7.6/S6 T/M: 7.5/6.5 Bomb 12/05/07 D final: 03/03/09
I got the impression on reading through the posts that whitney has been too available with his ex.
If it were me, I wouldn't. Make her wait--let her think--let her wonder.
Then (later) just a very cool "Thanks". or, if that is uncomfortable for you, make it just "less" than what you normally do. No "Hi" or anything chit-chatty.
She just doesn't get "your best".
I'll be interested in what she does with that!
Have FUN and give that little guy a TON OF KISSES!!
Will keep everyone posted if I hear from her this weekend. My guess is that she will want to talk to our son on Sunday and/or will want to hear how the birthday party was that we are going to.
You have a good weekend.
Me/W: 46/36 D7.6/S6 T/M: 7.5/6.5 Bomb 12/05/07 D final: 03/03/09
Update. Ex w went away with my daughter on the weekend. I had my son. Ex contacted us as soon as she was home on Sunday night to hear how my son's weekend was. Fine My son and I went to an airshow and went flying. We also toured a bunch of buildings in our city as it was the annual "Doors Open" event.
Ex contacted me this morning as my son was sick. I work from home so I took care of him.
Ex asked if I wanted to have dinner next Wednesday before my daughter's dance recital. It's my night that I have the kids. My ex wants to get my daughter ready before the recital. I replied back to my ex "what does SHE want to do as far as dinner?" She took a day to reply and said yes, let's go for dinner.
So, here I am again... a week later in the same situation. To tell you the truth I kind of don't want to go to dinner. If my ex was really enthusiastic about it then I would be too, but she is not showing that. I can't back out as my kids know we are having dinner together.
I really want to just ask my ex "what's on her mind, why does she even want to do this?"
I am just going to keep moving forward with NC on my end.
Me/W: 46/36 D7.6/S6 T/M: 7.5/6.5 Bomb 12/05/07 D final: 03/03/09
I would ignore this woman and be very warm and chatty with the kids. She is an inerloper into YOUR NIGHT and she is going to be COLD to you!! She has no regard to how it looks to the kids.
Wear something different, order something you normally would not order, flirt with the waitress, notice any pretty women. And do NOT chit chat with her, which is temperature taking. You don't care--PLEASE--make her "feel" that from you. Care about the people there that care about YOU. Your KIDS--that's IT!
Nice to have your reply. I was hoping to hear from you.
The truth is I could have said no to her. I would rather take the approach of just being happy and light when we are all together. I think taking the high road is best, especially in front of the kids. If I was to act the way you suggested I might be better off not going.
I think I am in a better position now that I have NC.
Please excuse any spelling issues as I am using my iPhone to reply.
This time I have no expectations.
Last edited by whitneypinch; 06/04/1012:26 AM.
Me/W: 46/36 D7.6/S6 T/M: 7.5/6.5 Bomb 12/05/07 D final: 03/03/09
I'm here on my own, H and S gone for the week to Canada for a fishing trip. I'm about to take a sledgehammer to the fireplace.lol. (it's something he has promised to do for over a year now--we need the space in our living room).
Can I justify it by saying it is a 180 for me?lol.
Anyway, hope all is well with you--no news is good news they say!
