I chose the one less traveled by...#29

[BeginningAgain]

I am still very confused about what you know. I am seeing a lot of half-formed conclusions and assumptions and very little that actually resembles fact.

If you want to know what is or isn't going on, you should get it from the horse's mouth.

Sorry you have been caught in this cycle. Hang in there chica.

I agree with Michelle. Stop dealing with assumptions that may be just causing you undue stress. Hopefully what you find out is nothing close to what you are imagining.

[smith18]

Oldtimer is just pointing out that one should make choices based upon sound evidence and prudence. Right now, your choices are based upon sketchy evidence and emotions (some caused by Aunt Flo paying her monthly visits).

[kat727]

Thanks Kerry!lol Ok the only things I know:1) I wrote a letter putting it all out there. He may or may not have it yet. 2) He changed his status to "in a relationship" on FB. 3) he just got back from vacation with his family and college friend(a girl).

I am nervous about reaction to #1 and sad about #2 though I have no idea who he is in a relationship with. So I should just be nervous and leave it at that.

kat

[MichelleLT]

You are allowed to feel how you feel.

But how you react to it, that's what matters.

For all you know, he got your letter and decided to change his status cuz he wants to be with you.

He also could have changed it to help avoid some of the spam messages on there that are tailored to single people.

No jumping to conclusions. No assumptions.

If you want a clear answer, talk to him.

(((Kat)))

[BobbiJo]

I am coming into this convo late, but my first thought was, maybe he is 'in a relationship' with you? Or, maybe he has a stalker co-worker or friend who wants more and he is trying to keep her at bay? Who knows?

I am one who also jumps to conclusions but through this I am learning to resist the 'shoot first and ask questions later' mentality.

I would say the only assumption likely to be true at this point is that SHE is not the one, since she congratulated him on it?

Take care, girl...

[kat727]

That is what I thought once I saw her say something about it. So that may be a safe conclusion. The only other thing I can say for sure right now is that my letter is out there somewhere.

After I saw her post congratulations, I thought who else has he been with...her and me. So there was a hope that he got my letter and will talk about it after but that seems strange. Actually the timing of all of it seems strange. I don't know. I guess I will know more once I get home.

kat

[kat727]

Ok college friend is moving to MO.

My head hurts, I need to stop caring.

kat

[smith18]

It sounds like you need to spend some rest and relaxation time in Tucson this summer. Not only to meet with Jeff and the Rockettes, but to also see "The Thing".

[hoosiermama]

Ok college friend is moving to MO.

My head hurts, I need to stop caring.

kat

I'm sorry, not quite following. is he in MO?

[kat727]

Yes. He lives in Springfield about 3.5 hours away from me. She lives in North Carolina. She is quitting her job and moving her and her 2 boys to MO. Just strange that she would post that comment.

Not my problem.

kat