Divorce in 1 month Help with exposing please need

[twolf]

WAW... im a better mon now that i left you.

Me... you had deppression from postpartem.

WAW... you right i had that and i felt that i didnt love you and i didint want to live their.

ME... I bouught the place that you wanted you wanted to live in the country.

WAW... I didint love you i got out of a five year relationship when we met. I was not in a clear state of mind. I was only 10 months out of a dysfunctioanal relationship. You were a rebound. I did not want to be alone. My world as i knew it was gone and then you came along. Move on! People cant be convinced to love some one im not property.

WAW... I how many times do i have to tell you I DONT LOVE YOU LEAVE O/M ALONE AND DONT TALK TO MY FAMILY AND FREINDS ALONE STOP HARRASSING THEM. No one feels sorry for you. Everyone thinks that you are acting crazy and pathetic. Move on.


WAW... Iv'e allways loved O/M. I'm totaly and completly in love with him. You will allways be my biggest mistake. Our son rose out of the mistake and is the greatest miracle in the world.I feel blessed to have son and would never change or even qestion having him.No one is trying to replace you as his dad butt you need to move on and let us live our lives in peace.


ME... How was i your biggest mistake.
I never stoped fighting for our family and marrige and dont want our son to be raised in a broken home.

WAW...I just want you to know that the feelings for O/M have been their since i was 15 now im 32. But until recently i have never acknowleged them.
As far as us being a mistake it was on both our parts. So stop with the lies your telling everyone.


ME...I have not lied about nothing YOU are the one telling lies.
NO DONT. I DONT DESERVE THIS BS. SO YOU CAN FEEL BETTER ABOUT YOUR SELF .IT CANT BE LIES IF WHAT IVE SAID TO EVERYONE IS THE TRUTH.You act like you hate me and i dont Fu!@#$%^ deserve your BS anymore.


WAW...you have made some stuff up. I dont hate you. I just hate thate you putt me through so much drama.

ME..you need to putt yourself in my shoes. If i left you for another women and said oh well how would you feel. Ive fought For our marrige and our family. I would of had no problem letting you go but i want my son to grow up in a two parent house hold. If you cant respect that thats totaly on you and never call me pathetic again.

WAW..It was pathetic because i told you sevral times that it was over and i wouldn't change my mind. Yet you keep pushing and pushing and pushing.


She keeps defending her actions and she thinks that they have loved each other sence she was 15.



Allen what do you think??





ME.37
HER 32
son2
together 5
married 3
bomb NOV 09

[MrBond]

Stop arguing with her. The more you do it, the more you are re-enforcing her feelings for the OM. Concentrate on getting more time with your son and taking care of yourself.

[twolf]

Its like she cant give me an honest answer and she keeps telling her self that its the right thing for her and our son. I havent Called anyone in two weeks to try to kill the affair butt the Call to the O/M work must of had a real impact and she is finally starting to tell the truth.

She does not want me to talk to anyone.

Anyone that wants to read the texts that we texted each other over wensday She texted me 35 times i only texted her back 20 times. and give me some addvice please do. TWOLF

[twolf]

MR BOND.. They are in a Shi# storm now trying to get some space and cover things up.
I know that the O/M hates it when i call to talk to my son. He hates it that me and WAW have talked a little over the last couple weeks
HE thinks that they are going to be one happy family with my son

I know that he is very scared that i called his work a couple weeks ago.
He does not have the balls to talk to me.

IM done trying to convince her that its worth saving.Im taking a harder approch when she lies i call her on it.
Im done being a doormatt.

[MrBond]

They are self-destructing themselves. Leave things alone. Good for you for standing up for yourself.

[Allen A]

Keep up the exposing the affair TWolf.. the more public it gets the more of a MESS you make of their secret little romance...

You CAN SPOIL the affair and make it no fun at all for them...

The TRICK is to do this with MATURITY so you don't turn the whole town and your wife off inthe process...

It is very lilkey teh case that your exposure angered your wife, but I honestly think it INCREASED her RESPECT for you.. even if she doens't show it...

Try not to use curses in your exchagnes with your wife or anyone... stick to the queen's english man...

ESPECIALLY behave yourself when you WRITE IT DOWN.. this could come back t haunt you in a courtroom.. CONTROL your LANGUAGE to expose and reveal only, NOT to ATTACK HER.. attack the affair and OM only...

[twolf]

Been talking to son2 every other night stbxw has been calling to let me talk to son.

Son has been saying hi dady, love you dady and been talking up a storm.

I wish i would of been in exposure mode sooner.LRT didnt work

Stbxw has been allot nicer to me sence i started to stand my ground she has been saying hi and talking about son and saying good by, big improvement over the last couple months.

I told her and everyone that im fighting for my family and the O/M could go fly a kite and its my family that he is destroying not his.

This guy wont make a stand and i think the stbxw is starting to have doughts even after her telling me this is the great love of her life.


Have our first mediation on tuesday. Im going to stand my ground for joint custody. Im going to remind her that i still love you and belive in saving our marrige.
I did not cause this and that she was talking to O/M about our problems. That he gave you addvice for his own gain that he took an advantage of you and i could forgive you for what you have done this far.
But im standing my ground on joint custody. Me and our son We did not ask for this, I belive we should not suffer for your mistakes.


H37
W32
S2
bomb aug 09
E/A april 09

[twolf]

Talked to son2 last night on the phone he was not very talkitive.
Tryed talking to stbxw about sons flew she was distiant,she never said hi or good buy like the last time we talked. I dont understand how she could be nice when i was not taking her BS to being cold. Maybey the O/M was their?

We have mediation on tuesday, hope it goes like i want.

Im going to talk to her after mediation im going to tell her that the door is open to save our marrige.
I will tell her that i dont want our son to grow up in a broken home and that i still love her.
Im not going to beg i will be cool calm and strong.
I will bash the O/M and i will let her know that she has so many reasons for staying.

Its like she talks her self out of wanting to stay married and i have to tell her she is wrong on things and put her in her place just to get her to stop justfing the A in her head.

I know she told me she thinks that i think of her as a trophy, You know what she is right, She is my wife the mother of our son she is a trophy to me.
At least i came out of the corner swinging the O/M still outside the ropes hiding under his robe.


Allen.... do you have any addvice for me on this?

Sandi.... do you think women like men that fight for them and stay strong .

[Allen A]

TWolf I think you are doing well here.. You said yourself you've noticed a change ALREADY in your wife since you started speaking up for yourself and getting your face out there...

Stop hiding, stop texting, stop distancing yourself from this problem.. get in OM's FACE and everyone else's face in a positive way... SHOW them you are a MAN who will protect his family

IGNORE your wife's "love of my life" crapola, she's deluded.

Did you know affair couples success rate LONG TERM is less than 1%?

The success rate for normal marriages is FIFTY percent...

50 versus 1... which dice do you want to roll?

Your wife will start to wake up over time, just NO CURSING and stay calm and mature.. DRESS NEATLY and try to look like the adult and OM will look like the weasely coward he is...

[twolf]

Getting ready to go to mediation for son2.We talk one on one for two hours with a mediator in the middle to observe and make shure we dont argue.
Im going to let the stbxw wife know that she is the one that caused all this.She was the won that ran a 100 miles for O/M that she is the one that is destroyung our family.

That she is the onr robbing our son of both his parents to get her emotinal needs met by O/M whan she has a good husband and family. I will let her know that i still belive in our family and our marrige. Im going Let her know that under no certain terms i will not fight for joint custody he and i dont need to pay the price for your acctions.
Im going to remind her of all the tuff times that we got through in the pace and we got through them and this is one of them times.
I will tell her that if she choose us that things could be better than before, if she chooses to keep up with what she wants then she is robing our son of his mother and father.


Just puting it all on paper now if any one has any sugestions on what to say to her and how to say it i will be on here for acouple of hours.