Yeah I get that feeling all the time as well. Wanting to call her and tell her to stop this insanity. But I have been divorced and on my own now since Feb. Your heart tends to take its time playing catch up with reality.
And like you and whatisis, I also have a nagging feeling before the bomb that something wasnt quite right. She stopped saying ILY and had no emotions when our only Son left the house to be on his own. I did act on these signs and tried to talk to her about it but she acted as if nothing were wrong.
Little did I know that even back then she was telling another man "I love you so much!" over the internet and the phone while she was married to me. And I had no clue this was going on behind my back until two months after the divorce was final.
It still sickens me to think about it. As has been repeated here a million times. The best thing to do is detach. It's the getting there that is hard. Especially after loving her for 20+ years. You can't just turn that off.
I hope peace finally comes to us all. Most of us are emotionally drained and exhausted. Beaten to death by our own love. I put on a good act at work and in public but even now my heart feels like it has been scrambled like an egg and set on fire. Just take care of yourself G. Time is on our side.
Me:48 W:55 M:22 T:23 Bomb:19Nov09 S:15Jan10 D:11Feb10 EA:Confirmed on 20Apr10 Fast track to her divorcing me
