still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

I am calm now. Totally was hysterical this a.m. But I took a shower, S took a nap and I was able to talk to a friend (THANKS RAVENLY!!!!!) and get my head back on semi-straight.

Piano- I am relieved to hear about the 50/50 outcome. Gatsby,I totally agree with what you said and do plan on treating S like you advise. BUt I just don't know people who grew up in a 50/50 custody arrangement. It was always mom had custody, saw dad every other weekend.

Got a text from WH to check on S. Last night, S had a really bad coughing fit and since I did promise WH that I would let him know if something happened, I felt guilty if I didn't tell him. So I texted him. I also asked "do you do anything besides give him water?" to kind of get some points for wanting his opinion, if you know what I mean...affirmation in a way. So then he told me and I just said "ok thanks! you are right..he does cough more after rough housing."

OK gotta run for now- I want to say more about the whole text thing later.

WN I totally really appreciated that inspiring post about not giving up and what a great poem! I checked out that website and saw something that spoke to me about ambivalent spouses living in the moment and not thinking clearly and we, the BSs need to do the clear thinking. Sounds like WH!