You put a dent in the affair at least... You will have to keep chipping away it reality bullets...
The more STRESSFUL her sneaking around, cheating, and lying becomes, the more ATTRACTIVE her marriage will look to her...
UNTIL NOW it has been fun, secret, and romantic for her... YOU just threw a BIG SMELLY WRENCH into that fantasy world...
Keep throwing reality at it...
I don't know if this will work, and Puppy may disagree, but I am wondering right now if her father may be able to offer more influence... How supportive is he of your marriage and you right now? Does he believe this OM is a threat for sure?
You COULD have her FATHER visit OM and tell him to leave his daughter alone and stop taking advantage of her while she and her marriage are vulnerable... I dunno... Puppy may say that's a waste of time, but I BET your WIFE will be livid and it would make the affair even MORE EMBARASSING for her if her father visits OM and gets that involved... NOT a fun affair when daddy knows you are sneaking around and cheating on his grand children and has to step in!
Or maybe you and FIL could visit OM, I dunno... Anyone else?
I know pup isn't big on this, but if you DO have support from HER father and other in laws, if THEY show up at OM's and tell him to get lost, it REALLY does NOT PAINT a PRETTY PICTURE of OM for your wife to sell later on... and she WAS thinking it for sure... Your wife WILL WANT to introduce him later if she pushes this affair further... so I say SPOIL that FANTASY by YOU introducing your in laws to OM in the context of an intervention... REALLY takes the train off the rails!
Its hard to find in laws that willing to get involved though... you would have to gauge it on your own.
Your call, its just an idea that hit me as I was reading opti.
