Hi Whatnow, I didn't see the post at 12:59 a.m. about yuor H's text...and I have to say that I thought when you said "R talk," you literally meant he said something like "I want to talk about us" or "what are we doing?" I am sorry that I misunderstood!!
So IMO by him saying "I miss you" he is testing the waters and testing to see if you are still hanging around for him. Doesn't this make sense? I really liked Seeing Red's reply about how to act if you were dating...like if he wanted to go out with you and you knew he was with another woman! I will need to remember that if I ever get the same vibe from WH.
OK now I realize this sounds mean, but when your H says "I miss you" you can reply with "Thanks!" or ignore it or "too bad. You are living with OW." (because that way you aren't giving him the pleasure of saying "I miss you too!" )
I just think that the whole playing hard ball, hard to get will make him continue to pursue you more and see that you are serious about him ending things with OW. He can also see that you haven't filed for D so you aren't closed to reconciliation.
Just food for thought! And thanks for your post on my thread- I found it very inspiring. I just freaked out this a.m. and had a panic attack but am calm now. PHEW!!!!
P.S. that comment about the Flowbee is hilarious!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004