Spouse Suffering From Depression

[Lucky11too]

Thanks! H is sleeping right now, so I'm taking the time to get away. The surgery went well yesterday. The dr came and talked to me afterwards and said how his tonsils were huge so his sleep apnea should be much improved now. Unfortunately right now, b/c of all the swelling, H's sleep apnea is actually worse, so he's been very frustrated by that. I've been trying to get H an c-pap machine, but all these obstacles keep getting in the way w/ the dr saying he doesn't need it and H saying but I can't breathe. I'm trying to be H's rep in this all, but it's hard. Besides the sleep apnea getting to him which has been affecting his sleep again still, he's been doing well with managing the pain so far. H stayed over at the hospital last night and I picked him up this morning, and now he's staying with me. His allergies are already bugging him, so will see how long this lasts for. It was kind of funny at the hospital b/c different nurses or drs would make different comments to H about "your wife" ("your wife taught you to be a good patient" and "your wife can come see you now"). Haha. Kind of felt strange again (like that feeling you get when you first get married and someone says something about your H or about u being a W. It feels foreign).

Everything has gone very well with H and me so far. He's been very appreciative about my help and even though i know he's been tired and grouchy, he's restrained himself from taking it out on me. I know we have a long way to go still, but I'm hoping this is the start of something good. It's great that he took this first step on his own and I hope it's the first of many more steps in the right direct for him to come!