Mr Bond, I agree that I am talking down to her in this circumstance. I feel that our children's lives are far more important than our own personal desires. We have been able to keep things amiable for the last two years. She told me that she has been thinking of leaving for a while now, but hasn't said anything, so this is very shocking. I am still angry, hurt, scared, you name it, so I am sure that my tone appears negative. In time I hope that I can get over how I feel.
She is a person of character. She has strong ideals and is very caring for her children emotionally. I am better at meeting their physical needs than emotional. Together we complimented one another. I fear separation will have a negative affect on our children.
DaddyLongShanks: As far as going places with her, it's impossible right now. As I stated before, she has been diagnosed as clinically depressed. She is much different than she was just 4 months ago. I see more anger in her than I ever have. We are also losing each other's trust. It's all falling apart. I can't control my mouth when I get upset, and it just makes things worse. Everything I do makes things worse. Lately, I do nothing and it makes things worse. It's almost as if she is looking for reasons to justify why she is leaving.
I've been depressed before, and it really helps to get outside of your house. Another thing that really helps is to get active. Diet also helps, of course excersize would be grouped under being active. She is going to need to find some things that she likes to do outside of the responsibility of reasing and providing for her family. All work and no play is depressing. Just consider it.
