V1olin's new life without wife

[dday101798]

Simply:

This is what YOU "want", I love you and have always loved you when I didn't do things right, but, I will not stand in your way. (loving detachment - no longer being there to hold her rope, to be her doormat, to be her "plan B")

And....

If she goes through with it, I guarentee you almost immediately after it's all said and done, she will come to you, and complain how bad things are for her, you have the unbeatable firepower to lovingly say, "I gave you what you wanted". And it will drive her up the wall each and every time. And each and every time she will get further and further indulged on how IT ISN'T what she wanted.

At least that's how it played out for me.