I chose the one less traveled by...#29

[hoosiermama]

let me just recommend my standard book rec: Journey from Abandonment to Healing, by Susan Anderson. If I've already mentioned it, I apologize. I really think this is what turned things around for me--understanding the process of grief and recovery from abandonment. working thru some of the exercises and even just being aware of the process and accepting it helped my insecurity tremendously. you know, there's no way we're NOT going to be insecure after getting dumped with our self-esteem in tatters. it's just the normal course of events. but how we respond to it--internally and externally--we have some control over if we have insight into the process.