MLCer or addicted infidel?

[WhatNow]

Hi M&H! Thanks for stopping by with such great insight!

I don’t agree with the move on comment, no offense, RR22 – it is bizarre, but I’m sure it’s not something her H would have ever even imagined suggesting before.

Delusions are a part of all of this. He has a few other delusions, but the polygamy was the hardest to hear. It did make me realize how far gone he is, and is a good temperature taker that he still brings it up!

WN boundaries are not for MLC until they’re coming out of the tunnel or at least in touch and gos. Do you feel you’re ready to set boundaries when H hasn’t even said he wants to come back?

H has said he wants to come back AND for me to accept OW in our lives (with just some hand-holding and kissing). He knows I never will, nor will our kids.

He has been in a slowly, increasingly "touch" for the last month or so, which, I fear could become a full-blown cake-eating sitch, if I do not maintain a line of some sort. I'll allow him to pursue the R talk next time he brings it up.

I love lists!! (The SPED teacher in me!) (I even draw little 'cross out' boxes..shhh)
The prob is, "Weed out DS13's clothes" has turned into a week long project of fixing the closet rods, weeding out toys, weeding out books, putting stuff in storage, cleaning out the storage room,...and so on!!!