Thank you very much for the thoughts, Abbey. You speak wise words. I am very much attempting to follow your advise.

I will be NC until I return home late next week. Shortly after that W is planning on filing for D. Whether she files or I do, the D will be put in motion within the next 2 weeks. Then it is 4 months until final. I need to drop the rope during that period, and take care of myself. There is no doubt I want her back, but she is not anywhere near the place where that can even remotely occur.


H 51, W 46
no kids
T 22 years
M 17 years
ILBNILWY 2/10
1st D talk 6/10
partial recovery
W files D 5/11
long distance separation 8/11
moving forward on D 10/11
legal separation complete 1/2012