And here I am .... H's MLC ....

[fudwoman]

Hi PEI,
Ok I might not have a great deal of credibility here but this is what I've got to say:
Do you brush your teeth everyday?
You may wonder why the hell I would ask such a thing - here's why -
I'm going to go out on a limb here and assume you do engage in daily dental hygiene -
You brush your teeth everyday because you recognize that clean teeth are not a once and for all thing - you have to keep at it regularly - get where I'm going here
I think detachment happens along the same lines - you see some detachment on your part and assume you're there - but the reality is it's a daily - sometimes hourly - sometimes moment to moment commitment.

When you ask how to detach - the answer is - it's a practice. You can train yourself to ask the key question - does the action, behavior etc. I'm about to do move me closer to detachment or closer to being invested in a particular outcome - if it's the latter - don't do it - change course.

I don't think there is any quick fix - no recipe - no Mc-detachment. You have to just slog through it one step - one moment at a time.

How do I know this? The school of hard knocks - livin it baby - every day and trying desperately to stay on course. Whoever said it's tough when they are right in your face - INDEED!

I hope that was even remotely helpful.

A