Maybe the two of you should confront them together. If not for your M, but for hers. If I wasn't against having kids involved, I would have had them join in also.
Nothing like two sinners walking into a room with their spouses and kids looking at them and saying "we need to talk".
If I predict correctly, the OM would throw your W under the bus at that point. There's your sign!
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.