Need advice for my sitch...

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We got pregnant early in the relationship, she out of desperation asked me to marry her. I told her yes, but not yet because i wanted us to get married not because we were going to have a child together, but because we wanted to get married. She misinterpreted this and I didnt find out til later. So we were engaged for awhile and she was excited and planning everything, but then we decided to move and buy a house in my home town to have a better support system with the children, etc... So the engagement peetered out and she eventually gave up and literally took it back.

Yipes. That must have been a HUGE blow to her. Ouch.

I've wanted to propose to her for a long time, but i cant afford a ring outright and am afraid to borrow for it especially with the way things have gone the last couple years. In our last discussions she stated that if I were to ask her, she couldnt give me a guarantee that she would say yes.

The ring thing - sounds like an excuse to me. A ring doesn't make a commitment. So to me it seems like you are all about her being committed to you, tied to you in all ways...but you won't make the same statements to her with your actions. You two have built a house on sand.

Greek