Exposed finally,,limbo land

[Optimust]

I did it finally, had the exposure talk, and it went according to what you guys were saying.
Me: ”Exposer, blah, blah, affair is not welcome, resolve it”
Her: He is just a friend. Our problems have nothing to do with my FRIEND. Take him out of it and I’ve been unhappy for 15 years,(hand-picked bad moments in marriage(total rewrite)).
Me: Wives are not supposed to spend all there free time, and make free time for a man other than their husband, or spend the night at another man’s home. And friends don’t say “I love you (W name)”
Her: I don’t spend all my time with him(rebutted with 4 examples in last week, she admitted to). He was sick in the hospital and had no one to care for him, he needed someone to watch him 24 hours. How did you get my cell phone, he says he’s loved me since high school (real comforting there, like this is no biggie either). How many texts have you read(answer= enough)
Me: It is an affair, not only that it is the definition of an emotional affair. Here are 9 questions, if 2-3 answered yes, you are in an EA, (she was at least 7 of 9) This is not just a figment of my imagination, it is a true EA.
Take OM out of it then, go NC for 6-12 months and lets see how it works.
Everything I’m doing is to protect and save our marriage and family.
Her: I don’t wont a divorced family, but I’ve been unhappy for a very long time, you just don’t see it.(more hand picked moments)
Me: You’re unfortunately blocking out all the good moments, no M could survive 1 yr, 3 yr, 7yr, let alone 15 years without a lot of good things involved.
Her: What did you tell my dad in your secret dinner meeting, trying to turn him against me?
Me: It wasn’t secret, you were invited also, but chose not to come. I did not turn him against you, his concern is with all of us as a family, and I did tell him you were seeing OM, and that you spent the night at his place (VERY PISSED).
Pretty much died off after this, 1:45 am, I got maybe 2 hours sleep, her also.
So there was a lot of denial, and blameshifting, gaslighting, and other crap.
Not sure what she is planning, but at least I breached the subject and let her know it needs to be resolved.

I feel that if she truly is this unhappy, and wants out, my love for her will probably tell me to set her free(after allowing some time for her to snap out of it), but I’m not going to allow the truth to be twisted anymore, and she will know if it goes that way, it is only because I love her – not because I agree with her FOG-filled mind.
At this point I’m going into 180 mode,and LRT(if I can) and just take care of myself and kids as best I can.

Any other suggestions on what else to do at this point besides 180?