I told him if he saw her or called her or emailed her that was it. He was done. He could pack his things and leave and there will be no more chances. He knows that I hurt very badly. He knows he hurt many people. He knows the consequences. I ask for reassurance every now and then but I have stopped...it is not beneficial to what we are trying to do. When I ask him he says no swimming it is over with her. So I stopped asking. I wish that she would not have emailed me and told me that he is just there for the kids. I wish she would not have said the things she said about how I am trying to keep them away from him. And how selfless he is for coming home for them. SHe does not live our lives, she does not know our marriage...why does she have a right to make me feel guilty for the choices I make concerning OUR children. I wish that she would go away. I wish this would all go away and I could have peace in my life.
Forget her mess. Compartmentalize all those feelings she provoked in you and concentrate on what you must do for you. She's worthless - don't assign any value to her or her words.
Now, do you KNOW - really know - that he has crossed that boundary you set down? Has he seen her/contacted her since you laid that down? Greek
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
