Thanks for asking Gardener- I’m doing well. And poet, thanks for stopping by, I checked your thread out also.
Update- All’s quiet here. Waiting on attys to finish reviewing the sep agreement, and I applied for my own health insurance to get off the family policy. It sounds like it’s going to be a while before I get any help from stbx so I’m going to be on a strict budget until the settlement is completed. (He wants to do a lump sum option in lieu of monthly spousal payments. That’s fine with me, but he wants to tie the timing of it to the re-fi of the house which he’s keeping, and that can take several months.)
Proud mama moments here- just bear with me: S19 is staying with me this week; it is nice having him around. He attends a prestigious music conservatory and did well for his freshman year. He’s attending a summer class so that gives him something productive to do. The class has a keyboarding component, so he brought over an extra electronic keyboard to keep at the apt so he can practice. It’s really nice to hear him playing in the evenings. His primary instrument is Tenor Sax.
D17 got her schedule worked out for her senior year of HS- she’s doing the post-secondary option (attend college classes and get both HS and college credit for them), so she’s at the HS for half the day, and the local college satellite branch for the other half. Assuming all goes well, between the post-sec credits and her AP test scores, she should have 35 credits done before she steps foot on campus and can go in as a sophomore.
My turn- I was reading some of my old threads. The pain from last summer and fall feels so distant now, just a bad, dim memory (those first posts were almost a year ago but it feels a lot longer than that). I remember feeling like I was in my own fog back then, and it feels mostly clear in my head now. It’s such a big difference.
I think I’ve done a good job of detaching from H- I don’t think about him during the day, wondering what he’s doing or why or whatever else. I do admit the thought of being replaced in his life and the extended family causes some pain, however. That’s the last piece for me to work through. I have an IC appt tonight, and I think I’m gonna talk about that.
