Well, isn’t that sweet, your H’s have a hero complex and they want you guys to join in and save/fix OW. How sweet, you guys really are a team, aren’t you?
Seriously, guys, I’m not melodramatic as a rule, and I consider myself very understanding and forgiving, but I would SCREAM if my H ever said anything like that to me.
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That's 5 years he has to make up for.......arghhhhhh
Well, at least the five years are usually not LITERAL years. If they were, we’d all be in trouble. They can breeze through, pick the good stuff, skip the bad, not sleep and skip over the time consuming stuff, cramming it all into a year or two or three. THANK GOODNESS.
I don’t agree with the move on comment, no offense, RR22 – it is bizarre, but I’m sure it’s not something her H would have ever even imagined suggesting before. IMHO H can’t see his life without you and right now, due to the drive of the chemicals and MLC fog, can’t see a way to not have OW in his life, so he’s doing what he can in his messed up brain – combining the two. I think your H wants to get his foot back in the door because he can’t imagine life without you but at the same time this compulsion has the best of him. Love that you called him on it, WN. Totally cool of you.
WN boundaries are not for MLC until they’re coming out of the tunnel or at least in touch and gos. Do you feel you’re ready to set boundaries when H hasn’t even said he wants to come back? I agree, he’s looking out of the tunnel at you, but I don’t know if I would set them just yet. As for the boundary of not letting OW move in with you…well, I think you’ll agree that H does not believe in his rational mind that would ever happen, so he knows your boundary there.
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He has himself convinced they have this open and honest R, and refuses to see the deceptions it is based on. He says "no secrets between them" but it takes him 2 days to mention he took me out on a Sat nite. I wonder...Does he tell her how he misses me, how he still loves me, is having trouble getting along with out me, how he can't imagine his life without me, all these things he has been telling me over and over?
Oh, boy, does this sound familiar.
As for the projects… I’m really trying to unravel mine. Try making lists. That always helped me in the past. It seems better when you have something to cross off, somehow.
