So what do I do now? Because I took him back and I have made it clear that he cannot see or talk to her. I have asked him on several occassions. I wont ask him anymore because why bother.I know the patterns now. I cant be a babysitter. I just want to be his wife. This time no explanation will change the situation..and the last time it was my choice..there was no explaination..I said this is it..your last time, you have hurt too many people.