And here I am .... H's MLC ....

[PEI]

This is TOUGH stuff pei.

Is it ever.

When/if he wants this M then he will not have ANY contact with OW.

Period.

Yeah. But we live in a small place, I don't even know if that's possible. Moot point right now though because as you've said ...

until HE decides this

YOU have to live YOUR life.

HE hasn't decided. I thought I was ... this whole thing sent me back. I thought I was further ahead than I am I guess.

Detach. And you do know how to do this.

Do I? Doesn't seem like it. I feel like I'm walking through the motions but it's not working. I still care way too much and hurt way too much.

What would you have done if you were a single parent?

I tried Mom and my sister first ... no dice. Like I said, first call was innocent after that ... crazy train!

No excuses here PEI. YOU have to do this. YOU know when you are not detaching.

You feel pain.

Yep. All true.

If you have an expectation of action from H you are not detached.

I'm having a hard time not 'expecting' certain things from him ... especially as their father.

This is a process and you will keep putting your hand on the hot burner until...

You don't.

Yeah. I know.