Today I am feeling really insecure about him meeting her...is it ok to send him an email or is that badgering..should I just leave it alone and if it happens it happens...we are in the he should have 0 contact stage right now.
we are in the he should have 0 contact stage right now.
what's the transparency plan?
what are the consequences if he crosses the boundary?
do not send him a e-mail/text/phone call
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Today I am feeling really insecure about him meeting her...is it ok to send him an email or is that badgering..should I just leave it alone and if it happens it happens...we are in the he should have 0 contact stage right now.
You know the answer to this. If he agreed with you that he will not have contact with OW, and he does it anyway, you apply the consequence to his action.
Swimming, you have to cut your nonsense out. Sorry to be blunt, but my God woman! Your H is a first class CAKE EATER and you KNOW it...and all you ever say about it is "I've had enough." But there is no proof that you have actually had enough b/c even after you say that, when your H decides to dole out another dose of his cr@p behavior, you make room in your life for it. You have to say to him what you mean, and really mean what you say.
You are not demonstrating self respect. There is no reason to expect him to respect you if you won't even do that much.
Greek
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
Today I am feeling really insecure about him meeting her...is it ok to send him an email or is that badgering..should I just leave it alone and if it happens it happens...we are in the he should have 0 contact stage right now.
You know the answer to this. If he agreed with you that he will not have contact with OW, and he does it anyway, you apply the consequence to his action.
Swimming, you have to cut your nonsense out. Sorry to be blunt, but my God woman! Your H is a first class CAKE EATER and you KNOW it...and all you ever say about it is "I've had enough." But there is no proof that you have actually had enough b/c even after you say that, when your H decides to dole out another dose of his cr@p behavior, you make room in your life for it. You have to say to him what you mean, and really mean what you say.
You are not demonstrating self respect. There is no reason to expect him to respect you if you won't even do that much.
Greek
Time for the BGPs.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
...He said you either trust me or you don't, there is nothing I can do to make you feel better.
thats a trap, he can spin that anyway he wants to because he's going to deflect everything back to "you don't trust me that's your problem."
there is lots he can do to make you feel better its called a transparency plan
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Dont mean to hijack this thread, but Coach or anyone else, I posted my story yesterday, but it got formatted wrong and was complained about. I'm not getting any responses now so i wondered if i should start a new thread with my story cleaned up and formatted better?
Dont mean to hijack this thread, but Coach or anyone else, I posted my story yesterday, but it got formatted wrong and was complained about. I'm not getting any responses now so i wondered if i should start a new thread with my story cleaned up and formatted better?
Simplify your story, Lost, and yes ~~~ paragraph breaks I'll stop by. Greek
Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08
