when he dropped the d-bomb on me, he basically came to that conclusion by thinking for me. he told me that intimacy was neither a priority or passion. how does he know that? he isn't me. yet he made that conclusion himself. he also told me that if we didn't have children, i would resent him later on. again, how does he know that?
if intimacy is a theme here, then how do i prove that intimacy is not a problem for me? should i really go out and find someone to prove that it isn't a problem? i can't prove it with words. i have to prove it with my actions.
If you were married, and he had come to you with these deep-seated fears, would you have listened to him? I see a pattern of EXTREME resistance--you have some wonderful help here and you resist. You are busy with the "evidence" that you did it all right, and H was all wrong. Was this a pattern your H become discouraged with?
You just need to DO SOMETHING --it can be small!! You are so busy proving us all wrong--Do something and THEN prove us wrong.
