Can it be...a MLC??

[Truegritter]

resentment building over the fact that now only THEIR needs are important.

Their needs will always be important...

To THEM.

YOUR resentment only builds if you try to control THEIR needs.

Think how stupid this sounds.

I want a blue lollipop.

You shouldn't want the blue lollipop. You should want the red one.

But I want the blue one.

If you get that blue one I will be angry.

Guess what?

He might get the red one just to appease you but he still wants the blue one.

And does this sound like a parent and a child?

Not a H and W?

So what happens?

He sneaks off and gets the blue one.

Suppose the blue one is really bad for him.

And you tell him this.

He still wants until he finds out he doesn't like the taste.

IF he were let alone to try the blue and figure out for himslef he doesn't like it then

All the heartache in between can be avoided...

And he feels better because he has learned for himself he doesn't like the blue one.

And IF ...

YOU understand this will happen when you have no part in it then why would you resent him his blue lollipop?

On the good ship lollipop

It's a sweet trip to the candy shop...