spouse pining for someone who's unavailable...

[xin]

wow, i have read some many threads with advise to stick with the marriage despite an EA and PA. But i seemed to get advise to just give up. Is there anyone who thinks there is still hope?

I am considering moving back into the city my H is in, continue to live separately, and start to initiate meeting once a week. Would this help my H snap out of his fantasy? He wasn't happy when i suggested it - said something like "I don't know what you're planning, but i don't think it would work." Should i dismiss that or face the fact?