The hearing over the bogus TRO that was supposed to be today was held for one week, mainly at the request of my attorney to prepare. Once the WAW found out she called a close friend of ours and her uncle ( that I get along with pretty well) complaining and ranting about it, how unfair it was, that she wants to see the kids, etc. The existing temp custody order that was a result of HER filing the phony TRO gave ME custody of our two kids and the house temporarily. She was allowed to have them Memorial Day Weekend, Sun 9 AM to Mon 6pm. That was it.
My attorney said that until the hearing date, this means that basically I have full sole custody. I know she believes I orchestrated the delay in the hearing not true, but she needs to believe that instead of accepting any responsibility for where we are now.
Like I said the last few posts, I AM NOT and DO NOT want to hurt or drive her further away for obvious reasons, and Im certain that this is reminding her of loosing the first two kids she had with the EX. When I offered last week for her to see the kids at my Dad's house while I was at class she refused, insisting that I was trying to set her up. Now she's complaining !!
I DO NOT want to " use " the kids as pawns or anything, its simply that there is NO WAY that this guy is raising MY kids as long as I draw breath. I told the friend and the uncle ( hoping one of them might be able to talk sense to her) that I want her to see the kids, but how do we do that without either of us violating the order that exists because of HER actions ??? She thinks Im trying to set her up and I certainly cant trust her to try the same after the events of the last couple weeks.
Part of me really wants to have the attitude of @#$% You WAW, YOU are the one that decided we had to separate, YOU are the one that decided to make up phony allegations, YOU are the one that decided you wanted to move in with your EX and lie about it when you had another viable option that was FREE and certainly would have indicated a desire to reconcile at some point, so NO, I will NOT violate this order and you can sleep in the bed YOU made and tough on you.
The other part of me truly does want to use every tool available to show her Im conciliatory and have already let go of my anger over what she's done the last couple weeks and the lies she has told about me,trying to jam me up for tactical advantage only, and try to arrange a way for her to see the kids, without me being there.
I think one of my fears is, IF for some reason I do not successfully get primary custody, she will use my " hardline " approach to this latest request to make it as difficult as possible for ME to see the kids as revenge.
This is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO confusing.
Anyone have any words of wisdom ?
OASN, yesterday I acquired PROOF that I called the local NON Emergency PD number, the night before she made up the phony TRO allegations, with MY concerns of her doing EXACTLY what she wound up doing !! That night the dispatcher basically blew me off, refused to send an officer out to discuss the situation , etc. I have a copy of the audio, so Im hoping it goes to my credibility that I expressed concerns about what she would try to do, BEFORE she actually did it and I essentially predicted to a T what she wound up doing.
