There are not black and white rules to this. If you feel that it's true that you guys are enough friends and not enough lovers, then seduce him. No, maybe not right now, but you can visually allure him now just by taking care of yourself. What attracted him to you in the beginning? I know with my H it was my smile and my legs, which are now covered under another 40 pounds of blubber that have to be removed... so, how about you? Something physical? Your laugh, your hair, your eyes?
In any case, don't get stuck on "this is the way to DB and that's what I must do." DBing is all about doing what works. Try something new and give it time to see if it works. If it doesn't, try something else. Just remember that in MLC fog, nothing much will "work." However, you can, I'm sure, see if he is attracted to you again, even in MLC fog.
My H said to me "It's not like I'm not still attracted to you," with a wistful sound to his voice. I know he misses me and that attraction, but right now, he feels he has to be faithful to OW. I guess it's a good thing that he's a serial monogamist, but it doesn't make me feel better. LOL. Find what works and do that. Right now, what works will be whatever makes you happy and gives you confidence, which makes you good plus is an attractive force for H.
