Thanks for listening and suggestions. To answer a couple of your questions.
I have wondered if he seeing someone else. I think it's a natural question in the situation. Maybe I'm being naive, but I don't think so. He works out of our home, as do I sometimes. There just isn't a lot of unaccounted for time. He doesn't travel out of town for business often. I do wonder, but it's not a question I am mentally prepared to ask right now. And in reading the book, I "think" asking that question would be pursuing--maybe I'm wrong.
Our communication problems are pretty typical I think. Days and weeks go by without meaningful discussion. It's not angry. Just nothing but logistical, daily grind types of things. We don't really fight about much--we just exist. When we did see a counselor about 18 months ago that aspect of our relationship got much better. Then we just stopped making the effort to focus on each other again.
I have tried coming up with some action oriented goals for our marriage. Kind of hard to do alone. I'm trying not to do what he would expect me to do--scream and cry, etc. I am trying to do the LRT, but at the same time remain cordial for the sake of our kids. The hardest part is the not pursuing, not talking about the relationship. So many questions I want to ask. Part of me also thinks that he is getting what he wants by me attempting to be cordial and calm. Maybe I do need to scream and cry. This is the part where I could use some opinions.
