Yes, I had anticipated a blow up too... She may be bottling her frustration... She may just blast you two days from now over nothing... Just keep your distance... She may just be looking for a willing target... She must be mad... Maybe she's just learning to control it...
This is all very bizarre. I would bet your W is not telling you the whole story.
You live in NY state, correct? As soon as the higher ups at my H's company learned he was having an affair with a co-worker they could not contact me fast enough. And no, that is not how I found out. You see, due to the divorce laws in this state it is a *very* serious matter to begin an affair in the workplace. Essentially when an affair starts at the company and the company building, telephones, property or computers are used in *any* sense to conduct the affair it is very bad.
My H works for a very trendy/hip company with nearly 5000 employees and that place is rife with affairs. It makes a soap opera look like nursery school. Behind closed doors this company has shelled out millions in legal fees getting wrapped up in litigation in adultery cases and they are more than willing to do whatever is appropriate to prevent that from happening.
I hope your W wakes up and realizes what a very serious matter this is should you decide to file for divorce or she does for that matter.
Who has the insurance with their jobs?? If you have access call them and check on the billing!! If she really went to two appointments they would show up!
I know the DB obvious what not to do (say ILY, gifts ect...)
For the past few weeks my W and I have done a lot together. We enjoyed ourselves for the most part during these times. Up until a week ago there was a stretch of 4 or 5 days where W seemed to put in an effort to try and make M work. Once she found the phone she has since stopped her efforts. Sine that day we still do things but nearly every time has been initiated by me. I don't know if this is good or bad. It could be considered pursuit if I ask W to go somewhere with me or do something but at the same time W can make her own decisions and she choose to go. There were times where I felt her attitude was as if I was forcing her or dragging her out to do something she did not want to but why would she agree to go if she did not want to go.
Do I keep on doing these sort of things, such as asking W to join me in doing something or acts of service? I am trying to make the most of what could be an opportunity of filling the void but I don't want to do too much that it creates pressure and pushes her away but at the same time I don't want to sit back and not meet a need she is looking for me to fulfill.
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
Just be your normal self. Go with the flow. She knows she is being watched at work. Don't call OMW, don't borrow your neighbor's phone. You'll be fine.
W unexpectedly arrived home form work early. I asked her is everything was OK, I thought maybe it had something to do with her arm, W said "It was slow at work and they were offering early out."
W plans on attending a female co-worker's grandmothers funeral this evening and was looking for a particular shirt at 9am... I got up and helped W find the shirt due to her arm and she was attempting to move mounds of clothes.
W and I were laying in bed, W was on the computer and she turned to me and said "guess who is giving a free concert here in August?" So I went along with her guessing game and threw out one of my favorite band names and turns out it is them. I expressed my excitement about the concert and said something along the lines of "That is going to be a great concert, we have to go" and W replies "We can go but I don't know if it is going to be together" I kind of gave a "pffft, and turned my head" and W said "what?" and I replied "the comment you made" and left it at that.
I probably handled that wrongly but I had just woke up and did not expect her to say that...
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
I honestly am thinking your wife is getting some perverse pleasure out of making you squirm and pursue her like this...
Each time she throws out the "I'm leaving" and you show a negative reaction your wife gets her fix.
I am thinking on the best way to handle things... Divorce-busting is not my strong suit, its affair-busting and you pretty much put an end to that I'd say... Excellent work there btw
