You seem to be in a state of "panic." At least that is how you are coming across to me. When a person in these situations is in a panic state they tend to make many mistakes. Calling and talking to most every member of his family, wanting to drive up and confront him, confronting the OW, writing letters, etc. etc.
Before making any moves or decisions you really should get a hold of your emotions. You can't make wise decisions if you make them depending on the emotion of the day.
He says he wants out. He is going to feel that you trapped him because of the baby Don't you see that? That is a huge hurdle. It does seem coincidental that you are pregnant for the first time in nine years just at the time he wants out.
I guess I am in panic mode. After the day he dropped the bomb, I cried and pleaded and sent up the letter that week.
The very few times after I have spoken to him since being on this site I have been calm and collected on the phone bc of the suggestions on here.
I am finding out more and more about the OW and feeling more and more hopeless and that is why I have a roller coaster of feelings. I post on here to get advice and see things in other ways.
We've been together since I was 18. Married only 2.5 years. Pregnancy is not "fake" if that is what you are implying. I have no idea why God decided to add this blessing at this time. He is free to demand DNA test or call my ob if he wants.
Last edited by papayachic; 06/03/1003:08 AM.
M:27 H: 33 M:10/07 T:9 yrs H moves away for drug recovery: 3/2010 ILYBINILWY & wants D:5/02/10 Confirmed OW:5/21 Told MIL:5/25(only concerned about H's recovery) Told FIL:5/28(will speak to him)