Well I did thin the time we spent did help our sitch.
From what my W has ever told me OM is easy to talk to and he listens.
From what friends told me he is an obnoxious BSer who jokes all the time.
From what omw told me, he has a great personality which makes him easy to get along with and talk to
I try to be a better communicator but I don't get much opportunity. I listen to W talk I give indication I am listening with acknowledgments nodding eye contact at times repeat what she is saying, I do my best
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
Well I did thin the time we spent did help our sitch.
From what my W has ever told me OM is easy to talk to and he listens.
From what friends told me he is an obnoxious BSer who jokes all the time.
From what omw told me, he has a great personality which makes him easy to get along with and talk to
I try to be a better communicator but I don't get much opportunity. I listen to W talk I give indication I am listening with acknowledgments nodding eye contact at times repeat what she is saying, I do my best
Funny how thats an endearing quality to alot of women. The bigger the d-bag, the more women they get. Crazy.
This morning when W left for work and arrived at work we had a descent exchange of text messages. I had asked W a question but she did not response to it.
W had doctor appt. today after work to get her arm checked out. W had txt me that she had arrived at the doctor. I had a feeling something was not right.
I txt W that I had errands to run and a few things to do. I left house to do those things. When I was out, W called me. W said that the doctor had seen her and referred her to go straight to another dr. that she might have a fracture. When W said this I expressed my concern and asked W if she wanted me to meet her at the doctor, she said "why?" in a calm tone and I replied "I am concerned, this is a bad situation and I want to be there for you." W replied "It's OK, it might not be anything, I could be there for a few minutes for all I know" so I did not go.
while W was waiting in doctor office we exchanged a few text messages non-r related.
I arrived at home, shortly after W called and told me what the outcome was and that she was on her way home. Turns out she has a sprain.
When W got home, she interacted with the dog. We had a brief exchange and then she said it....
She sat her purse down on the table and said, I got pulled to the manager's office today and said the managers name. this is how my W narrated what was said
Manager: This situation has to end the talking needs to stop
W: It already did
Manager: I spoke to the higher up and he said maybe it is best one of you two go to second shift in order to squash this.
- I wanted to say "he should be the one to go" but kept my mouth shut
W: From my understanding it is squashed we don't talk anymore. It was already decided we don't work together anymore.
Manager: Well it just needs to end, don't even look at one another. Let people move on to the next thing. People talk, I been there. Let this blow over
W: Understood and it is.
I am sure I did not get it exactly how the convo went but W said all this in such a calm tone and she down played it as if it were not big deal to her getting pulled in by the manager because according to my W the manager down played it. I am not sure if I should be worried...
I said nothing, I offered no opinion, I just gave head nods and maybe a "huh" or "hmm" or two. Soon as she finished saying what she had to say, I directed the focus to something else, I believe I started talking about the dog.
After we talked like we usually do. W was starting to upset me due to not meeting emotional needs, I remained calm and then walked up stairs. W followed me up stairs she laid in bed and went on laptop. She started to play a game on laptop and I joined in. During this time, I accidentally did something I should not had but something I use to always do, W gave me a dirty look and told me she would punch me in the face lol.
I told W and I seen her struggling to do something "Don't be too proud to ask for help. I don't want you to make your injury any worse. I don't mind helping you out" W simply relied "i'll be fine"
Shortly following W feel to sleep.
As a side not, I had spoke with a friend today who is her co-worker he said was in a good mood, this is before I learned she got pulled aside and I was wondering if anything did happen at work. friend of mine was nit aware she had got pulled aside.
Friend said W was in a good mood. W explained to him ho she hurt her arm (she told the true story). W mentioned to friend how she things people talk about other people at the work place and to watch out and said "like her over there, I know she has said something about me" friend said he did not offer a response. This is unlike my W to worry about what others say or even care...
Friend said at one point he was behind W and W did not know. Someone asked my W what OM had to say about her arm being in a sling and she replied "we don't talk anymore." She said this without knowing friend was near.
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
See that's the thing...W was calm almost too calm when talking about as if it were no big deal or a joke so I just let it ride and offered no opinion or objected anything.
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
I am sure I did not get it exactly how the convo went but W said all this in such a calm tone and she down played it as if it were not big deal to her getting pulled in by the manager because according to my W the manager down played it. I am not sure if I should be worried...
Oh that the point did not get across to W and she thinks it is a big joke or if the convo did not even happen and this is some lan them two thought up....
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
