Sorry I haven't been on in a few days...I've been trying to stay off this site while at work, otherwise I just keep reading it instead of what I'm getting paid to read.
SIL texted me briefly... said that she "unfriended" me on FB because OW feels like an intruder with H's family (ya think??)
She said that OW has been "barking" at H about it and he in turn was pressuring her to add OW to her friend list. She didn't want OW to be able to see my stuff so she unfriended me then added OW to shut them both up (so she says).
She said she's told H that she thinks he's making a huge mistake, but he won't listen. I told her that he's just trying to legitimize the addiction and what will be, will. That all she can do is be there when he needs her to be.
I'm pretty detached right now (knocking on wood)... Am trying to work on the mirror work.. planning an exercise routine to take advantage of free gym facilities at work as well as some GAL activities...
I've started to think more and more about how I want the house, my life, to look etc and will see what I can do to change it.
Am a little concerned about financials (H still hasn't given me anything.. partly cuz he doesn't have it.. when he does, it goes elsewhere I think)... When my mom moves out in the fall I'll have to come up with some extra cash to compensate. I might take a page out of Mila's journey and revive a business I used to own years ago... Still working on it and I know something will work out...
I'm pretty sure that one reason H isn't giving me $$ is because he always complained that we couldn't afford the house so he's hoping I won't be able to go it alone.. that would prove he was right. I will not give him that satisfaction.. I'm going to work it out one way or another..
I've felt very happy the last few days. Not focusing on H and his spin cycle was a relief. I'm hoping it will last for a while.
Am reading a book that has an Appendix about what your emotions are telling you when you are going through changes in your life or work. The book talks about the different phases of change and has journal-type exercises to help you move through the stages. Quite helpful IMO.
The book is called "Changing Directions Without Losing Your Way" and the Appendix itself is worth picking up the book. I'm going to have to buy it as the one I'm reading is a loaner.
(((To all of you))) I wouldn't be here if it weren't for you! I'm thankful that you are here...
~ This Diamond now SHINES!! ;-p ~
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