Originally Posted By: Onthemountaintop
Did you ever give him a letter,

"I know we may not be able to salvage...but I hope...either way, I want to say in writing that I was very hard on you...in therapy I realized that I was afraid of losing you....pushed you away...can get why you don't want to come back...hope you do for us, not just for your son or daughter...but if you don't...I want to make my sincere apology for not being there when you needed...and hurting you deeply because of my own hurt and fear...






YES I did. 9 page letter I mailed him the week after the bomb. He received it. The last convo we had when I told him I was pregnant, I asked him if he ever received it. He said he did and that was the end of that.
Some people in al anon have told me that some spouses do feel very betrayed and do say things like what I said.

Last edited by papayachic; 06/03/10 02:43 AM.
M:27 H: 33
M:10/07
T:9 yrs
H moves away for drug recovery: 3/2010
ILYBINILWY & wants D:5/02/10
Confirmed OW:5/21
Told MIL:5/25(only concerned about H's recovery)
Told FIL:5/28(will speak to him)