still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

Thanks Gatsby and Whatnow- glad to know you both still believe! Seriously!
I will definitely check out that Bruce Fisher book.
And yes, TIME is really on my side. This is my choice- I am not a victim- and you are right, Gatsby, I need to slooowly follow my heart. So hard! But thank you, WHatnow, for pointing out that WH still hasn't filed for D. So I can believe that means more than just "he doesn't want to be the bad guy" which is what sooo many people tell me!
But I think what gets me down sometimes is seeing other moms and dads with their babies. Like today at swim class, this dad came and he and his wife were both just cracking up over their baby and truly bonding together.


OK about the R talk, Whatnow....I remember reading or hearing that if THEY bring it up, we "can" talk about it! We just aren't supposed to be the ones to initiate it. So your H is bringing it up WEEKLY? How is he supposed to discuss reconciliation with you if you won't talk, you know? Unless he still hasn't ended the A with OW. Have you said "we can talk when you dump that ho?"