No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

[MrBond]

Update.

So last week Friday, we spent some time together with my youngest daughter. We took her to a Children's center to play around and my W was very responsive. She was talkative and again I increased the physical touch here and there. When we left, I put my D in the car and my W actually was waiting for me to strap her in to give her a hug. Now normally, she would just jump into the driver's seat and close the door. On that day she actually did it twice. So a good sign there.

After I left them, I went to a C session and my C mentioned that I actually "looked" great. I guess that interaction with my W had a positive effect on me. She said that I should think back to what I did differently this past couple of weeks that would get such a positive response from my W. I said I think it's just a bunch of actions that built up over time.

Saturday my W and I spent the day with my youngest D again and also had positive interactions. I asked if she could sleep over on Sunday so that when my oldest D came home from her sleepover she could spend some time with us. She agreed.

So Sunday she was a bit withdrawn but overall positive. Another change was that she actually brought a pair of sweats to sleep in. In the past, she would have just slept in the clothes she was wearing. Weird, I know, but it's her shield I guess. That night, I took them all to a new restaurant I found and everyone had a great time.

On Monday, we take the kids to Iron Man 2 and we are again interacting like a family and everything is going great. We go back home and she gets ready to leave around 4. As she's leaving, she hugs all the girls goodbye and just breezes past me to leave. Needless to say, I thought it was pretty rude.

That night when she calls, I tell her about how disrespectful that was and if I had gotten her mad about something. I know I shouldn't have brought it up, but I figured, what the hell.

I told her that since she left, she's been treating me like the enemy and has done it for so long that she has made it become a habit and she probably didn't realize it. I told her I deserved alot more respect than that and it was a lousy model to show our kids.

She listened and didn't have much to say.

Tuesday rolls around and she's friendly when she calls. Almost humble sounding. If there's one thing I noticed, it's that she's lost her defiant tone of voice and she doesn't argue any more. And I do say that I see more and more of my old w back every day.

I just wish there were a way to kick her out of the fog faster.