Marked&Healed Thanks for your insight and advice. I will certainly keep the light in the window.
H is visitng tomorrow to see the children and take them out for lunch. As he is coming in the day I will be at work so won't see him.
This doesn't sadden me anymore. Previously I would have been devastated if he was home and I hadn't seen him. Detachment is holding at the moment.
Next week when he is on holiday at a place I am extremely fond of will be difficult. I am aware of this so hopefully can sidestep any emotional fall out.
