My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[hoosiermama]

I KNOW! wtf is going on here??!! just talked to xH about dropoff/pickup tonite, and he said he and D14 talked last night, and then said (and I'm paraphrasing a bit):"I'll tell you the same thing I told her. I've had my head up my *ss for the past 2 years, but it's out now and it's a new day." (this is as close to apology as the man can get.)

this is just downright disorienting!! all I can say is, if I hear of any trouble between him and the new gf, I might personally offer to fund their relationship counseling. is this one of those "beauty for ashes" things?

ok, so the classic "happily ever after" is supposed to include reconciliation. I mean, that's what this site is about, right? but honestly, I have it better than that; I learned who I am and I like myself for the first time in 20 years. I am no longer lost in a marriage that required my disappearance and drained any self-esteem I could scrape together. I have healed from the past 2 years of hell, from a marriage that didn't have a lot of potential, and I am the mother of a truly wonderful daughter. I have let the marriage, and xH, go on to whatever might serve him better. I have peace, D14 has peace, and co-parenting is peaceful. and maybe there will be romantic love in my life again in a much healthier form--and maybe not, but either way I have learned that I AM OKAY on my own, and I can be the biggest contributor to my own happiness. and honestly, it can't get much better than that.