He's trying so hard to be "single dad" and the truth is, he doesn't see how little he does and how much I still do.
Originally Posted By: Marked&Healed
It’s also not fair about the yardwork on top of all the rest of what you’re holding together. We as LBS’s have to take care of maintenance on our houses, keep the home clean, shop for groceries, take care of the children’s needs (if there are children), in some cases, take care of a business or rental house, pets, work full time, deal with depression, keep up a front, learn about MLC, read books, go to counseling, GAL, etc. It’s so much and some days you just want to curl up and scream. And add detachment to that list… AHHHHHH!!!! There, I feel better now. Give it a try.
M&H, I read these two posts, one of them from Mila's thread and just wanted to chime in. You really hit the nail on the head.
Some days I do scream, I have my kids almost 24/7 and somehow manage to do all the same things. I have made up my mind that whether my W realizes it or not I am going to do all this stuff and more.
I sometimes feel like I am killing myself but I can tell you it gives me a big sense of pride that I can do this by myself. When my W does come over to the house and notices some sort of improvement or that the yard is looking good I do wonder if she "gets it".
They are too wrapped up in their own world and selfishness to appreciate anything we do.
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