Detachment and forgiveness both have to be practiced
I think it needs to be done one at the time...I'm doing well on detachment this week, but if I had to think about forgiveness right now I would have to go back to the emotional mishmash stored in my brain that I had wrapped and put in a box for the moment . So I think it will all come in time...all the issues have to be dealt with eventually so you can close those boxes permanently and move on.
Received a reply from H Re: Our Vacation Club. He said that yes he wanted to take D. So I gave him the passwords. By questioning this I hope that I've set a boundary that it's OK to use the Club as long as it's for him & D. This is a family asset after all. I will be able to check the account, so he can't hide it from me.
I'm doing great, I'm kind of in moving forward, energetic mood. Getting lots of stuff done that I was procrastinating about. Starting to have some goals and dreams for the future (that don't include H).
My girlfriend coming to live with us gave me a boost and a little bit of a kick in the but, because now I want to do few things in the house before she comes in couple of months.
I'm also moving forward with my Plan B - getting my license back and starting in my old profession again. It's back to school for me...actually I think that these days I can do most of it on line accept for the final exam.
Have a great day everyone
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
. So I think it will all come in time...all the issues have to be dealt with eventually so you can close those boxes permanently and move on.
