I'm really up and down atm. Had another msn nite with exGF. Started similar to the Friday chat, bit flirty/jokey etc and I then mentioned seeing my boys weds and taking them bowling Friday this week as they go on hols 4 a week Sat. Asked if she fancied coming along. We then go into a bit of a debate in that she said how come she could meeet them, that I never wanted her to meet them and had kept her out of that part of my life. I was like, no, I said all along and sure I said to you that I wouldn't introduce my boys to any Gf b4 6 months had past and was sure (we split at 5 months). That is 100% the truth and she said as that would of made a difference....I was like omg...what u mean. She said, it would of shown her how serious I was. I was shocked, said, how serious I was. I wanted to move in with ya but as not working didn't think that be a good idea, I was planning to introdue her to the boys at a family BBQ soon, so there were others there and she and they weren't in an awkward spot (she knows my sister so could of had others to chat too at first meeting). Said, I thought it was obvious how I felt...etc etc.
She then went quiet so i asked if she still there as i had it when she goes silent and put a sad smiley on. She said yeah and a crying smiley so I asked if she crying. She said no, but I feel sad. I'll be ok in a bit.
It went on a bit but got of the subject a bit as i popped out, but she never actually said how she feels so I'm just going by what she says which seems so surreal. Seem like, she does want to be with me but for whatever reason is scared.
I didn't intend that conversation to go like that, but does it seem I did bad ?? I've not hassled her since, i dont ring her anyway, but what do others think I sholddo next ???
Everything I read and DB itself are like, play it cool, act over it, no chasing etcand i'm sort of doing that but when we chat it's like the old us again. The complimenting me, the jokey flirting so is this different ??? Do I maybe need in this sitch to just go for it about how I feel and what I want ??? Or do I back off again now and carry on similar to I have been (slowly slowly catchy monkey).
really appreciate people inputs and any from others that have done the dumping and maybe reacted similar
