still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

Thanks to SeeingRed's thread, Now I am thinking of the Newton Laws of Motion (I copied and pasted from a middle school webpage!):

law #1: a body at rest tends to stay at rest; a body in motion, tends to stay in motion (unless acted upon by an unbalanced force)

So this applies to my sitch as- when I allowed the cake eating nothing changed for the A because it was "more of the same."


law#2: Acceleration is produced when a force acts on a mass. The greater the mass (of the object being accelerated) the greater the amount of force needed (to accelerate the object).


Everyone unconsiously knows the Second Law. Everyone knows that heavier objects require more force to move the same distance as lighter objects.

lol- okay SO if WH is the "heavier object" then one would say he needs a lot of force to move from his position. All along,I have not applied force (because I have not applied pressure). Now, by my change in visitation, he is with her MORE so he is exposed to HER FORCE more than he was when he was visiting over here! Hmm...hopefully she will force him to face the decision to D and he will realize he doesn't want it! Maybe this is happening currently although slowly...very slowly!


law#3: For every action ther is an equal and opposite re-action.
This means that for every force there is a reaction force that is equal in size, but opposite in direction. That is to say that whenever an object pushes another object it gets pushed back in the opposite direction equally hard.

Aha- I have "pushed him away" so he WILL return to me due to this law of physics! Of course! And OW is pulling him toward her so he will catapult in the opposite direction, to me! Why didn't I just trust the science all along?

[gatsby11]

Hey, teacher! I love this physics stuff.

I didn't go to bed yet. Figured I'd wake up in the middle of the night all wide-awake. So I'm holding out 'til 9!

I have 12 weeks but I feel like I have to be involved somewhat at the beginning of the year to start things off. Get my kids in the right schedules, talk to the teachers about SpEd grades, etc. (Did I already say I was a special education teacher?) So I'm going to bring little girl in if I have to to put this stuff in motion. Then around Sept or so I'll go back to full time.

Hopefully since it's the summer (I'm just like you, weather affects me A LOT) I can keep GALing and not get down over the maternity leave because of no work. We'll see.

If I had a long time off, I think it would be harder for me. It's tricky because I want to be there for my little girl as much as possible, but I also want to be the best me I can be. And work helps. At least that's my thought now; could change later.

[gatsby11]

Oh and good for you for not getting out of the car. You weren't feeling it today. It's all good.

[TimeHeals]

Vocabulary word of the day: Hypostatisation: a fallacy of ambiguity, when an abstraction (abstract belief or hypothetical construct) is treated as if it were a concrete, real event, or physical entity. In other words, it is the error of treating as a "real thing" something which is not a real thing, but merely an idea.

[flowmom]

Thanks for reposting WhatNow. Definitely food for thought.

[newmama]

Gee, Timeheals, why would you post THAT vocab word on MY thread? What are you trying to imply?

Hey, if you can dream it, you can achieve it!

(it's just that it may not happen at the time you want it to)

And come on, I was using hard core SCIENCE to support my theory!

Gatsby- I forgot you were a SPED teacher! Do you remember that I used to teach SPED too? Yes, if "mama aint happy, aint nobody happy" or whatever the saying is!

[TimeHeals]

Heh.

We humans construct models--maps, hypothesis, superstitions--to try to describe reality.

We are even more prone to doing these things when under duress, and thus once sickness was described as evil spirits (that could be sneezed out and invade others), and though these models can be useful (I personally like maps a lot), they aren't reality.

When we are talking about human relationships (because, let's face it, human behavior isn't well understood), simple models (e.g. newtonian physics) don't really do a good job as a map.

[newmama]

Well I think we can make some predictions about human behavior- we know that positive reinforcement will increase certain behaviors and punishment will decrease or stop certain behaviors. The problem is identifying what is reinforcing and punishing to people!

But that is why the love languages are key. If I know that my WH needs admiration and affection, then I can compliment him on finding a great place for dinner with a kiss and a squeeze! Ideally that will encourage him to look for MORE restaurants! And if he found a bad restaurant I would not kiss him and insult him so that he wouldn't make that mistake again. j/k!!!

Just taking an intermission from my workout. Am watching "The Stepfather," a thriller about a serial killer who preys on middle aged divorced or widowed women with kids and then murders them all. Great.

[gatsby11]

You taught SpEd, too? No, I don't think you ever told me. Rock on! It's a great job. I heart my kids.

Hypostatisation. Interesting. I suppose if one is superstitious, one his hypostatisatical all the time! (I made up that second word. :))

[newmama]

Just saw this- "A reason, a season, or a lifetime?"

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that
person..

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need
you have expressed.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with
guidance and support,

To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend and they are.

They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,

this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an
end.

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.

Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.

What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire
fulfilled, their work is done.

The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on...



Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has
come to share, grow or learn.

They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.

They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.

Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.



LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,

things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional
foundation.

Your job is to accept the lesson,

love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other
relationships and areas of your life.

It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.


Thank you for being a part of my life,

whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.