Yes, it was a PA. My wife doens't press me for sex right now either.. we are both processing all the damage right now more or less... We are just being close friends, spending time with each other, doing things together, living our lives, inviting each other INTO our lives again... We still hug each other, and we still hold hands and kiss each other good by when I go out to work, but that's as far as either one of us is moving.
It shouldn't end with busting the affair no... It most certainly should involve a thorough house-cleaning of the relationship, but that' can't start until you feel safe with and respect one another... We need to do this together and that takes a team, not two people who are angry and isolated emotionally...
And people DO avoid sex when they are dating at first.. that's NOT the first thing that happens (usually, and I would argue its healthier for the R if the sex is kept under control, its a good test of their maturity... if they run right into bed, they don't have a lot of self control and the relationsihp isn't likley to last long term). I am just learning about who this woman is again... She more or less feels the same... There's no pressure on either side in my home.
